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Abusers fail to find their identity in God. They cannot accept that they may be abandoned, hurt, or not respected by others, so they control the people around them to preserve their god-like identity. This means the abused cannot try to manage the situation.
​Trying to appease or avoid conflict won’t change the abusers’ real need to find their identity in Christ alone. 

Abuse is a deliberate attempt to gain control. You don’t overcome abusive behavior, then, by focusing on self-esteem or anger management. Abusers aren’t sick; they’re clever and driven by a desire to control. 
This means the abused aren’t crazy or the ones to blame.

Awful things are often said about women who remain in abusive relationships. Instead of being one of those voices, let’s try to understand why a woman may find it hard to leave. Fear of more violence, fear for her children, fear of her own future—these often paralyze and produce a fog that distorts reality. Abusers work hard to isolate those they’re abusing by threatening, discrediting, or shaming them into thinking nobody will believe them. A wife may not necessarily hate her abusive husband; she just hates the abuse and wants it to stop. With all of his manipulative apologies, she believes he will change.

And sadly, she hopes her suffering will achieve his redemption. It’s heinous to think she stays because
​she’s responsible for his behavior, or because she deserves the treatment she’s ​getting. 

One of Satan’s greatest lies is getting you to believe you can remain unaffected by a sin committed against you. The serpent wants you to keep quiet and not let the beauty of a risen Savior shape every part of your story. The church must learn how to give women back their voices so they can taste the wondrous reality of God’s redeeming work for them. We must let the gospel have
​the last word. 


The best prevention measures to be agreed upon will take time to apply, and even after seasons of experience, they will not be conclusive. No solution switch can be flipped to prevent all attacks instantly and completely. But prevention efforts should continue to reduce their frequency and quantity—it is intentional readiness that will reduce the success of future attacks.

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